blessmyendeavors

I read the blog post she wrote today and it made me think.  ( http://otherhalf.today.com/2008/12/09/the-clingy-matter/ )   I do know some clingy people who drive me insane.  However, I recall times I wanted to be so close to the man I eventually married that I once described it as ” longing to get so close, that I could gladly crawl inside his skin and hide with him there”.  Ok, it sounds weird, I admit, but that is the only way I could describe how close I wanted to be.  so, I try to be sympathetic with clingy people.   Up to a point.

My son has a girlfriend who is clingy.  She will text him ten times an hour, and if he doesn’t respond, call until he does.  Nevermind that … umm … he is at work … ??  He gets annoyed; gets into a fight with her; calls me to vent, and I get annoyed.  I deal with stress by talking it out;  my son is that way , too.  He doesn’t want to scream at her, so I get to listen….oh, joy.   LOL … the things us moms will do for our children.

Still, it makes me more aware of the times I feel clingy; times, mind you, not lifestyle. I give in to my need by spoiling my husband.  I don’t think many men object to being pampered, as long as it’s not right when they are involved in something else.   I’ll rub his shoulders, fix him special treats, curl up by him, not across the room, when we watch TV.  I’ve bathed him, washed his hair , and served him drinks..( usually coffee or Mt.Dew…lol  ) in the bath.  He’s usually so relaxed and enjoying that.  I’ll perch on tub, or a stool, or just sit on the floor, and we’ll chat until the water cools.   I’ve made him look forward to my clingy moods.  If he isn’t around when my mood hits, I’ll do little things, like send him an email , just to chat.   Or, I’ll fix his favorite meal.  I’ll have his coffee waiting, maybe with a snack I had to expend effort over.    The point is, I created an acceptable outlet for my needs.  I let my clingy mood come out in loving care of him, coaxing his responses, not pressure to look at me, no demands for attention.  I try to make it impossible for him to not look at me and smile.